We all nod our heads and agree when its said but think about it? Do you really refrain from judging the book by its cover."Don't Judge a Book By Its Cover"
Let's get serious first impressions are just that impressions, the way you look when you first meet someone is an image that is burned into their brain until the next time you see them.
Job Interviews, they are based on appearance, who looks like they care more with the effort they put in.
Dating, guys look for the girl who is done up more and "looks hot" and girls do the same.
First time meeting someone else's parents, the way you look could make or break you, if you have too many tattoos or piercings or your clothes on too tight, they might not even want to hear what you have to say because the vision they have of their child hanging out with you
and the list goes on...
first impressions matter and appearances matter.
But why do we allow those to be the basis of what a person is on the inside? I've known some people who are full bodied in tattoos, with a little on the over the top wardrobe choices, who have many piercings and who have crazy hair. I'd be crazy to say that I didn't have my opinions of the person right of the bat, thinking things like "why would my friend date this guy he is covered in tattoos?" or "why does she wear clothes like that doesn't she know what people are saying about her?" or "why does he always act arrogant?" and like I said before....the list goes on.
One thing I am happy to say that I have done is that I have given these people a shot. If there is one thing I'm good at it is talking with people. I love talking with people and hearing their stories and getting to know them on a personal level. I've met some really great people that way. Looking past the outward appearances that they hold in society they are completely opposite of what I pinned them to be.
People who are so kind and giving and generous. People who can't catch a break because they like to wear their clothes a certain way or to mark their body up with tattoos. Those things don't define a person. And yes, maybe their choices on what they choose to do to their bodies and wear on their bodies might not be what you want to do with yours but that doesn't make it wrong. Every person on this earth is given the power of free will. Because a girl has bleach blond hair doesn't make her easy or stupid. And just because she is trying to portray that image of herself, she could just be putting up an act and is trying to heal her broken heart in the wrong way. You don't really know someones background or even someones present until you give them a chance.
All I can say and stand for are the experiences that I have had and the friendships I've built and the neat people I've come across that I probably never thought I would "associate" myself with...those people who truly have great things to offer the world and are more like you than you think. If we are all created equal don't you think we all deserve the right...no matter if you are black, white, female, male, gay, straight, quiet or loud to at least have a chance? A chance to get to be known by others by who we really are? We shouldn't have to be shunned against for being different, because if you are different than others it doesn't make you wrong. Every one is entitled to their own beliefs and guess what? In the real world here and now you will not get every person to be on the exact same page, religion, race, gender and so many other things.
I believe in God, I am a catholic, I am a female, I am straight, I am brunette, I am white, I am in my 20's, I am conservative, I am a college student, I am an outgoing person, I am human.
Yes I do believe in God, I do have what I believe is a strong faith and a relationship with Him, I understand that people don't view Him in the way that I do or even if they believe in Him at all. I would be lying to you if I said I could care less if people didn't know Him and have a relationship with Him, I would love for everyone to believe in God and Jesus Christ. I understand better now that I can only live my life. And hope that by living my life might inspire someone to believe in the greatness of the Lord that I believe in. I don't want to push my beliefs on someone that could turn them away, I have had friends who don't believe in anything, and they are great people and I pray that they find the Lord but I don't preach to them about why they should.
I believe we all have choices, we are given that right just by being on this planet, we all can make our own choices. You can choose to believe in what you want, wear what you want and be who you want to be and I really think we shouldn't be judged by that in the harsh way that we do.
Like I said I'd be lying if I didn't have thoughts going through my head on a first impression by the way someone talks or how they dress, but what I do and what I challenge all of you to do is to just TRY, TRY to give them a break, a chance, some time to actually get to know what is under the outward appearance.
I promise you, that you WILL be proven wrong...AT LEAST once. And in doing so you will make a great friend, or even just have a happier plane ride. We all have something to offer this world. Allow yourself to see some body's light shine for you, and allow them to see yours.
Remember we weren't put on this earth to be unhappy, there are good people in the world but sometimes we let appearances build up a wall too high to break down and we miss out.
Just try my challenge:)
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