Settling.

"Just because the shirt is cute and cheap doesn't mean you need to buy it"-Lauren Marson

My best friend told me that a long time ago, and no it wasn't because of back to school shopping specials, it meant to do with matters of my heart. She was telling me that because of a boy that liked me and I thought, hey might as well.

We were probably 17 when she said this, and now that we are 21 its crazy to see how much deeper we view this.

Why do we allow ourselves to give in to things we don't really want or believe in?

 Why do we settle for less than we think we deserve?

Is it self confidence lacking that make us think that it is okay?

Is it because we are lonely?

What drives us to settle?

I believe with all my heart there is someone out there for everybody, but its just like shoes, you can't wear shoes that aren't the right fit and feel comfortable.

Maybe we should have learned that in Cinderella, the whole prince waiting to see if the glass slipper fits.

If it doesn't fit, it doesn't work, we wouldn't buy shoes two sizes to big or one size to small, it wouldn't make sense...so why do we just give into the guy who doesn't fit?

It must be the marketing, he's got a big SALE sign on him, he says all the right things and he's not the exact right fit, but it looks good and doesn't cost too much so you might as well give it a try, you might make it work.

And maybe you feel since you didn't put a big investment into the relationship, its going to just be okay, you'll have someone to talk to, and hang out with.

Why settle?!

Who does that really help? Because the person you are "settling" for might be fully invested in the relationship, and you are hurting them in turn.

Are we selfish? Are we lost? Are we confused?

What drives us to settle?

You deserve it all...you deserve EVERYTHING.

You deserve to be loved and you deserve to give your heart to love. You deserve to be treated like a king or queen. You desereve to feel like you are the best thing in the other persons life. You deserve to feel beautiful. You deserve to feel fireworks. You deserve to feel passion. You deserve to have someone you can trust. You deserve to have someone loyal. You deserve someone who makes you laugh. You deserve someone who makes you happy. You deserve someone who won't try to hurt you. You deserve someone who doesn't only look out for themselves. YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING. YOU DESERVE IT ALL.

There is someone out there for everyone...

I believe in that. I'm 21 years old, I've had two serious relationships that aren't anymore, I haven't had the best luck with love. But I still believe in it, I have seen people find love when they are 15, 19, 27, 52 and so many other cases, there is no "age" you have to be to find your true love.

So what? Your friends are all engaged and getting married, or are just in serious relationships...and you aren't.

DON'T SETTLE.

DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE!

Just because the shirt is cute and cheap doesn't mean you need to buy it!