Two Sides To Every Story

I had the hardest time understanding when people would say "well there is two sides to every story." Its not like I didn't get what they meant, but I never really took it to heart, never gave it much thought. I just went along only seeing the side I wanted to see.

I have had mulitple instances in my life where I was told by someone I thought I could trust and care about, about another person and just took it as truth. I feel so terrible looking back at those times when I was so easy to trust what another person had to say without hearing both sides.

Those times when I just sat by and trusted what I heard and that became the image I grew in my mind for that person, and the majority of the times I never met the person before.

I could make up an excuse to why I allowed myself to do that, but it would be just that an excuse, and there is no excuse to do something like that.

I've learned a few things,
If someone is mad at their ex, I wouldn't take their opinion of them as full truth. They were hurt, and when people are hurt the easiest thing it seems to do is make the other person who caused you the hurt, hurt. But going around and telling people every single bad moment the person ever had in your relationship, (most likely embellishing the situations) now that isn't a fair thing to do. Just because that person left a "sour taste" in your mouth doesn't mean that you should make them look bad in the light of others. Chances are that person has things to say about you too, they were hurt by you, but they don't go around running their mouths about how you did them wrong. The best way to know what really happened, is to know both sides.

So you got cheated on, you got beat, you got mentally abused, etc...shouldn't you be happy you aren't in that relationship or associate with that person any more?

Shouldn't we allow others to form their own opinion? Why do we so easily throw people under the bus? Is it to make ourselves look better? Or the victim?

I especially learned that it isn't right to tell the story you  heard about a person you don't know and a time you were there to actually know what really happened.

We all have our own side of a story. Is it right for us to throw someone's name in the mud? What are you really accomplishing when you do that?

Think about the law, now yes now and again our system is all screwed up, but the thing I think they've got right is before they make their decision they hear both sides of the story. We should allow ourselves to do the same.

I'm not saying that if someone is venting about their boyfriend or a girl who pissed them off in class you need to stop them and say no, I'm just saying don't take all they say as truth, a lot of the time we speak out of anger, and forget the great things that the person does have to offer.

If you really want an opinion on the matter, try to hear both sides of the story.