It is the thing that God created for us to give away and to receive. There are many forms of love, first love of God, and your family, friends, neighbors and even your enemies. God tells you to love everyone. But the verse I know we've all heard even if it was just in movies is...
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails
This is the verse you hear at weddings, this is the verse that inspires me. I want to be in a love like that with a man. I want the people I love around me to find their soul mates who love them like that.
A love that is patient, even when it is hard and your significant other is on your last nerve, someone who has that patience in their heart for you.
A love that is kind, a person who will drop everything and expect nothing in return even though they would know I would do the same for them. Someone who holds doors open, who blesses someone when they sneeze, someone who calls their mom to check in to see how she is doing.
A love that does not envy. Such a love that will be proud of the accomplishments that the other person achieves, who is supportive and wants nothing but the best for me.
A love that does not boast, not to be one of those showy couples who have to proclaim their love to each other 24/7 in front of everyone, I want a love that people can see, a relationship that is so apparent that we are in love that there is no need to boast.
A love that is not proud. It ties in with the boasting, I want a love that speaks for itself.
A love that does not dishonor others. Someone who respects your family and your friends, who respects your background and even not just the people you hold close, but everyone...I want a love that doesn't dishonor others.
A love that is not self-seeking...I'm not looking to be fixed and I don't want someone else to come to me to fix them. I want someone who is not just looking out for number one, someone who considers me and turns to me and above all is a man who turns to God.
A love that is not easily angered. Being in a relationship when the person you are with gets angry easily is something that is very fearful, and it isn't love. I am not saying that I think love is happiness and smiles all the time and there won't be disagreements but when those disagreements arise I don't want the person to get so angry at me so quickly.
A love that keeps a record of no wrongs. Confession, something God allows us to do, He wipes our sin away and cleans the slate when we confess we've done wrong. God loves us, and when the person you love apologizes and feels remorseful and you forgive them, it is then over with, it is not to be stored away to bring up in a fight to prove your point, once forgiven the slate is wiped clean.
A love that does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. I don't want someone who will lie to me, and I would expect them to want the same from me, the truth is the best policy. Feeling good about lying or doing wrong is sickening, feeling good about telling the truth is freeing.
A love that always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Someone who will stand beside me, who will keep me safe from harm. Someone who I don't have to question when they leave to hang out with the guys for a night, someone who I can trust. Someone who keeps me hoping and we hope together someone that lasts.
I want a love that never fails.
Looking to that verse for what love is helps. I've been doing a lot of searching lately in myself and wondered about myself and why the relationships I had didn't work out. I scared myself thinking that the one is still out there and my true love hasn't been met yet. I sat and thought about what would mean a lot to me and what love should be.
I thought that with all the of the verse and everything that states, but I also thought of some more things. I want someone who knows what he has when he has me, and I know what I have when I have him. I want someone who loves me like I love them and I'm not the only one rowing the boat in the relationship alone. I want someone who makes me feel beautiful everyday and thinks that I'm the only one out there and that I am good enough. I want a guy to remain faithful and not have to go to other girls for whatever reason he may see fit. I want a guy who doesn't pry about my past and I don't want to pry into his, I want a guy to accept me for who I am. A guy who loves my imperfections and understands that I'm not perfect. I want a guy who is a hard worker and isn't afraid to get his hands dirty. I want a guy who loves his family and treats his mother with respect. I want a man who values women and doesn't treat them like they are inferior. I want to be loved like my dad loves my mom, and my grandpas have loved my grandmas and my brother in laws love my sisters. And yes this list seems very long of all these things that I want but truly I would want a guy to expect all of these things from me.
I'm not rushing into love, or even looking for love, but the idea of actually feeling and being loved like that gives me hope for the future. It scares the crap out of me at the same time...giving myself to someone completely and having them do the same and both being fully invested. When you've been burned one time too many its hard to put yourself in that place to accept that you will love again.
I know I've been all over saying what I want, but honestly, I want this love for each and every one of you. A love that is not perfect, but a love that is true and pure and something worth holding on to.
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